Mid-Life & Retirement Transitions


Sexuality is an area of life that can cause problems for many people. Whether it is issues of sexual identity, sexual functioning, dysfunction, differing frequency or desire, sexuality can be difficult for some to talk about and is often accompanied by a feeling of inadequacy or shame. Whatever the issue, it can help tremendously to be able to talk confidentially with someone who can direct you to accurate information, support and treatment.

Many times, issues of sexuality that arise with couples can be improved through open communication and education. Unfortunately, couples often suffer in silence or build walls of resentment when issues arise with sexuality and expectations for sexual satisfaction. There are also many health issues, such as depression, fatigue, fibromyalgia, or interstigylcistitis, that impact a person’s energy and self-esteem, in turn limiting sexual receptivity and desire.

The Men’s Center offers supportive counseling options for couples as well as for men and women as individuals.

Common Sexual Issues

Both women and men can experience problems with sexuality or sexual activity. The Men’s Center offers supportive counseling options for all types of sexual issues, including:

  • painful intercourse
  • inability to reach orgasm
  • premature or delayed ejaculation
  • erectile dysfunction
  • low libido (sexual desire)
  • sexual anorexia or avoidance

Whatever your concerns or questions may be, The Men’s Center staff can help you while also maintaining privacy and confidentiality at all times.

Understanding Sexual Addiction

Sexual addiction is any sexually-related behavior that disrupts your life or causes severe stress on family, friends or one’s work environment. It is common for someone with a sexual addiction to place a priority on sexual activities over other aspects of their life and to the extent that it dominates the addict’s life. Like other addictions, sexual addiction makes people willing to sacrifice every other part of their life in order to continue their unhealthy behavior. Sexual addiction can take many different forms, including: compulsive masturbation, compulsive heterosexual and homosexual relationships, pornography, prostitution, exhibitionism, voyeurism, indecent phone calls, child molesting, incest, rape and violence.

Learn more by visiting the SASH Web site, The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health

Learn more by taking the Heterosexual Male Sexual Addiction Screening Test by SASH

Learn more by taking the Gay Men Sexual Addiction Screening Test by SASH

Learn more by reading the Cybersex Addiction Checklist by SASH

Learn more by reading an article on Women and Sex Addiction by Patrick J. Carnes, PhD

Understanding Sexual Anorexia

With sexual anorexia, a person becomes obsessed with avoiding sexual activity. Similar to other compulsive or addictive behaviors, avoiding sex can give a person a feeling of power or the belief that they can avoid feeling vulnerable or hurt. Like food anorexia when an individual avoids eating at all costs, someone with sexual anorexia can experience that same loss of individuality, distorted perceptions of self and one’s body and a desire to control the self or others through depriving oneself of sex. Common feelings associated with sexual anorexia can include:

  • Extreme fear of sexual activity
  • A distorted view of one’s body or appearance
  • A need to avoid sex or anything related to sex

Both men and women can experience sexual anorexia. It is also common for people with sexual anorexia to have experienced some kind of sexual trauma in the past, such as sexual abuse or childhood neglect.

Learn more by reading about Sexual Anorexia on www.sexhelp.com

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The Men’s Center welcomes people of all backgrounds. If you have questions or comments about our services, or if you want to learn more about how The Men’s Center can help you or someone close to you, please contact us.

Please note that the links to outside resources are for information only. The Men’s Center has not prepared or authored the items referenced in those, and takes no responsibilities for the content thereof.

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